surfing, sea turtles, sand, garlic shrimp and poke: oahu, hawaii with kids #takemeback

sometimes the universe hands you craziness and sometimes the universe hands you last-minute work trips to paradise that you must piggyback with a family vacation. so it was last fall. with about one month’s notice, we drained our reward points for flights, pulled the kids out of school for a week (don’t judge me brah) and experienced the wonders of hawaii.

seeing as how winter just gave us a pile of lame icy snow, i figure it is a nice time to revisit our magical trip to the land of aloha this past fall.

people on various local travel forums advised it was a waste of time to spend fewer than 10 days in hawaii especially because of the time change and long flights from the east coast, but we spent 5 nights (with a 6th on a redeye flight) and maximized the heck out of that time. even with the miserable redeye trip home with 2 kids who couldn’t get comfortable, i have #noragrats.

north shore oahu beach

we split our time between waikiki and the north shore on the island of oahu. this allowed us to experience both the hustle & bustle of the tourist epicenter of waikiki beach and also the more laidback, rural, jurassic park atmosphere of the north shore. (really, they filmed jurassic park on the north shore, who knew.)

now obviously this is not an exhaustive list of possible places to go or things to do, but these were the hits, and mostly i am just recounting them so i can relive the fun… (also recently i’ve been planning for other future trips, and i’ve realized that blog travel reports from real people–especially real parents–are gold. so if you are planning a family trip to oahu anytime soon, this might spark some ideas.)


honolulu picks:

hyatt place waikiki beach: top bang-for-your-buck hotel
hyatt place waikiki breakfast
rice, kimchi, pickles, miso soup! (and froot loops, oj and the usual stuff)

waikiki hotels can really run the gamut from seedy grody looking places to high rise luxury. what i was looking for was a mid-range family-friendly spot within walking distance of the beach that would NOT be $300+ per night. hyatt place  was perfect. just a couple blocks from the beach, an abc store next door (we stopped by for bottles of water and chocolate covered macademia nuts), free plentiful breakfast included (with american fare and miso soup, japanese pickles and even kimchi, my korean soul thanks you), nice clean modern rooms and decent pricing (i wouldn’t call it a steal but it was in the low 200s/night when a lot of other mid-range hotels i found were in the high 200s or 300s/night without free breakfast). valet parking was the only parking and it was a bit pricey, but that’s standard at the hotels in waikiki. and there was no hidden resort fee as some hotels have started charging to cover for low-sounding rates (pro tip: check the fine print). in short, i definitely would stay here again.

kuhio beach: perfect for kids

“waikiki beach” actually has several sections, all of which are actually pretty small but known for different things, and as luck had it, we ended up in kuhio beach–arguably the most little-kid-friendly section of waikiki. because of a wall not too far from shore that blocks the waves, this section of water is very calm. in other words, there isn’t any surfing or bodyboarding in this little section of beach which makes for perfect floating and wading, especially for little ones.

kuhio beach

ono seafood: fresh, tasty and cheap poke

with almost 2,000 reviews and a 4.5 star rating on yelp, i figured if we were going to have poke (pronounced poe-keh), this was the place to go. it was amazing! ono seafood is a hole-in-the-wall, cheap, quick takeout place that offers deliciousness with punchy flavors. for less than $10, you can get a pile of rice and delicious cubes of ahi tuna or tako octopus seasoned in your choice of asian flavors and a drink on the side. not bad, not bad at all…. the only warning i would give is that even the shoyu option which didn’t sound spicy ended up being a little spicy. which is great if you like some spice, but not so great if you’re sensitive to it (like our kids). the only other warning i would give is that there are only two or three parking spots out front and only one little picnic table outside, but we had no trouble parking on the street around the corner, picked up more food at a restaurant across the street and took everything back to our hotel to eat in the open-air lobby.

aloha stadium swap meet: affordable souvenirs

apparently a lot of international visitors like to shop at high-end designer shops in waikiki so there are a lot of expensive stores on the main drag near the beach. for the rest of us wp-1489934288770.jpglooking for hawaiian and asian tchotchkes and bargains, i recommend the aloha stadium swap meet. on certain days of the week at certain times (check the website), you can drive in for $1/person to find vendors in endless stalls of souvenirs, hawaiian shirts, beach dresses, swimsuits, ukeleles, coffee beans and more, and the prices are good and low. you should aim to arrive early to get in easily and secure a parking spot. and just fyi, there were a lot of coffee stalls but i found most of it underwhelming (thankfully, they offer samples before you buy so you can make your own judgment) except for hawaii’s local buzz coffee, which was great. while there is a lot of the same stuff (and honestly a lot of junky stuff) from stall to stall, there are some great cheap souvenir finds and some great gems to be found… like this cute totoro backpack for $16!

and ukes… all the ukes.
island vintage shave ice: literally the best

THE BEST SHAVE ICE EVER EVER EVER. i may not be a shave ice expert but i know when something tastes really damgood. skip the other hyped places and just go to island vintage shave ice everyday twice a day. it was a bit hard to find because the front is facing away from the street, but man oh man, it is amazing. their fruit syrups are clearly made with real fruit, the mochi pieces are handmade, the ice is a pillowy consistency, there’s froyo/soft serve in the middle, and the flavor combos are on point. other places may be cheaper and have bigger mounds of ice but they also use those really artificial-looking and tasting syrups and this just holds no comparison. if for some reason you can’t get here, wherever you go, i recommend saying yes to the ice cream in the middle, condensed milk, mochi and azuki beans.

north shore picks:

north shore surf girls: awesome surf lessons for kids and adults

one simply cannot visit the north shore of oahu and NOT go surfing. home to the banzai pipeline and the little beach town haleiwa, it’s a thing here. it was my one thing i had to do. so after reading reviews and finding a highly rated woman-led outfit i signed up my daughter and myself for group lessons with north shore surf girls. our lessons took place at chun’s reef, a place with calm waves and beautiful surroundings without being too crowded. it was amazing, exhausting, beautiful, fun, crazy. our instructors were super kind and especially good with my daughter. she rocked it. i couldn’t believe my eyes watching this kid ride wave after wave. meanwhile i crashed and burned and crashed and burned. literally my arms were burning. the hardest part was not balancing on the board but fighting the waves to paddle out. i did manage to get up 2.5 times, considered that a win, and then called it quits, paddled for what seemed like forever to the shore, collapsed on the sand out of breath and said i’d never do it again. (still, i firmly believe everyone should do this at least once.)

laniakea beach: say hi to the sea turtles
sea turtle
dude, mr. turtle is my father.

just a bit north of haleiwa (and right near next to chun’s reef), there’s a well-known sea turtle hangout at lanieakea beach. it’s not marked, but there tends to be a horde of cars parked across the street and lots of people standing around the beach. while we didn’t see any sea turtles up on the sand, we did see a few of them swimming and getting tossed around the waves, living the life. the crazy thing is… when i was dying of paddling back to shore from surfing, apparently i paddled right by one of these guys. a woman on the shore was pointing wildly to a spot right in front of me saying “look at the sea turtle!!” but i couldn’t see it because of the glare of the sun on the water and because of the dizzying exhaustion.

waimea valley: swim under a waterfall!

in the spirit of continued bucket-listing, i found out about this botanic garden tucked in a valley that has a little waterfall and offers the opportunity to swim. waimea valley is, oddly enough, a converted ex-amusement park. but the best part is the waterfall. even the little ones can do the waterfall swim because they make everyone wear a life jacket and life guards are onsite, so it feels like a very safe, controlled adventure–perfect for young ones and nervous parents. the .75-mile walk through the garden was interesting too. we learned the big beautiful trees we kept seeing were monkeypod trees and we saw lots of pretty flowers and cool plants we don’t have at home. if you decide to go, there’s an admission fee to get in and you will want to check to make sure the waterfall is open (the first day we tried, it was closed for a movie shoot) and don’t forget your swimsuit and towels.

camaron food truck: garlic shrimp with a twist
coconut shrimp (left) and garlic shrimp (right)

while checking out the north shore, the other must-do is to eat garlic shrimp out of a food truck. there are many of them. giovanni’s might be the most famous one and the standard-bearer, but after trying both, i think camaron is better. located in the thick of haleiwa’s cute little shops, it’s a great pick for post-surfing. what sets the camaron truck apart from the others is their thick luscious cream sauce. it’s not the “traditional” style of of shrimp being fried with a metric crap ton of minced garlic, but it is really very good. and still very garlicky. there are a few umbrellaed picnic tables in front of the truck AND–#winning–you can use your credit card to pay for your meal. i also appreciate that they put vegetables on the plate. most of the hawaiian-style places we visited would load you up with scoops of white rice and macaroni salad, so the glimpse of fresh veggies was a sight for sore eyes…

polynesian cultural center: like an immersive Moana experience

wp-1489934352322.jpgperhaps one of oahu’s biggest tourist traps, the polynesian cultural center is basically a living museum. now that moana is out, i think of it as a moana immersion experience and i mean that in a good way. while it is indeed very tourist trappy, i still think it’s a worthwhile place to spend a day. it’s educational and entertaining and provides a lot of information on cultures you don’t often have a chance to learn about. they have a lot for the kids too, from learning a hula dance to playing games to weaving palm leaves into hats and fishes. if the kids get their “passport” stamped enough, they can also get a little prize at one of the shops outside the gate.

wp-1489877375546.jpgtickets are expensive and vary based on whether you want to stay for the luau, have dinner, watch a show and other things. if you are DoD, i highly recommend stopping by one of the mwr offices in honolulu to get significantly discounted tickets. if you don’t know what that means, i highly recommend at a minimum buying your tickets online in advance (save 10% when you book 10 days in advance). you can also look into getting an entertainment book coupon. we did a package that included a luau and the evening show. i liked the luau, which included a fresh flower lei, buffet food and some fire-throwing and audience dancing. we also paid a little extra once we got there for a smoothie in a cut-out pineapple, because why not. the show looked like it would be great too but we didn’t last more than 20 minutes because, exhaustion. it was a long day and i think staying awake through the show was too high of an expectation. thankfully, we stayed at the hotel right across from the parking lot of the center which made getting to bed easy.


so that about sums up the top highlights. there were some things we didn’t get to do, because of limitations with time (i would have liked to snorkel at hanauma bay) and limitations with patience (there’s no way we were taking the kids to pearl harbor)… but in all, it was an amazing trip. we did so many fun things, and people were so friendly to us. maybe it’s because i’m asian american, maybe it’s because the kids are hapa, but people often asked if we were locals and everyone we encountered was so nice to our kids. (one person even gave us a locals discount at a shop even though we told her we were mainlanders…”well, your kids are cute so i’ll give you the discount anyway”)

we live pretty far, but one day we will go back and do more, see other islands, stay longer, eat more spam and eggs…

so many rainbows, everywhere, all the time.

happy christmas

it was a negative billion degrees outside but i had a brilliant idea.

the kids would stand in the middle of historic main street, with its cute brick pavement and sidewalks, cute little shops, and the glimmer of the water in the distant background.

so we waited for a break in traffic.

and risked our lives…GO GO HURRY STAND IN THE STREET AND HUG AND LOOK HAPPY SAY CHEESE OK NOW GO BACK IN THE CAR, the camera battery died, and we went home.

after downloading the pictures, we realized….

“mom, this looks like we’re in front of a green screen.”


happy christmas everybody.


now i ain’t saying she a clam digga: your beginner’s guide to clamming…mostly if you’re going to cape henlopen in delaware

for the first time in a bazillion beach camping trips, we finally had no rain and no crazy storm where i thought the tent would collapse and we would die from a lightning strike. it was amazing!

it had been so long since we had nice weather while camping that i forgot exactly how pleasant it could be. it was nothing like the time that a thunderstorm whipped the tent around so violently i stood up holding the poles inside praying we wouldn’t die while the kids slept like logs. it was not like the time the sky kept spitting rain on us so we lit a fire while holding an umbrella over it only to have the fire keep smoking us out. it was also not like the time our whole entire site was sitting in 3 inches of rainwater so we set up on higher ground but then it rained and water leaked into the tent anyway.

this time, it was perfect — sunny, 80s, no real humidity, not too many bugs.

AND this time, we discovered new things… like clamming. as in digging. for clams. also known as quahogs.

none of us really knew what we were doing. so i looked up youtube videos and online forums to figure out what we needed to do…. and little of it was actually helpful in the end. like, i watched videos like this one and thought: ha! easy peasy! i can totally do this! you just take the rake and push the mud around and voila….

yeah. it didn’t exactly work out like that.

so i’ve decided to document some tips. from one beginner to another. keep in mind i’m obviously not an expert. but clamming also isn’t rocket surgery either.

tips for clamming… (especially for quahogs at cape henlopen state park in delaware):

first things first. obey the law: if you are an adult and want to go clamming in delaware, you need a fishing license. kids under 16 years old don’t need a license. and don’t try to go without — because chances are, you’ll get caught as natural resources officers make their rounds. luckily, cape henlopen makes it easy to get one on the spot at their tackle shop. note that it’s cash only to get one though. and looky here, it appears you can even purchase your license online. (fun fact: in maryland, if you’re a maryland resident, you don’t need a license to clam.)

also know the legal size for clams you can keep. the tackle shop can give you a ruler that has a notch for easy clam measuring. if a clam fits in the notch (1.5 inches long), it is too small and needs to be put back into the wild. if it doesn’t fit, it’s good for keepsies. the officers checked the sizes of our small ones… so don’t try to get away with keeping illegals!

equip yourself: we brought one trusty gardening hand rake and a plastic bucket and dishwashing gloves. it worked out ok, but with three of us clamming, we pretty quickly ditched the gloves and took turns using the rake. next time, i would make sure each person has either a hand rake (which is good) or a long-handled rake with sturdy tines (which is better) or a smallish shovel (which we saw a lot of other people using so i assume is good too). if you’re feeling fancy, you can get a rake with a built-in basket. or even waders to get out into the water. or rain boots to keep your feet out of the muck. but are these totally necessary? nah… some people also swear by just using your hands, but i found the rake a lot easier for finding a clam. for storing your clams, you can get a bucket and just put ocean water in it. or you could use a net or a bait bucket or an onion bag suspended in the water. i like the idea of an onion bag inside of a bucket for easy water-changing. think i’ll do that next time.

this was all we had between three people…. *sob*

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timing is everything: look up the time for low tide, then plan to clam within the timeframe from a couple of hours before to a couple of hours after low tide. note in delaware, you can’t clam at night, which should leave you with one time for low tide during the day. if you have to buy fishing licenses, give yourself time to do that too.

the reason why you want low tide is because of access. we walked out to sand bars exposed by the waning tide and did most of our digging above water, in the wet sand. you can rake under the water like i’ve seen on youtube but… we obviously did not want to be using this stumpy little hand rake in water where we can’t see anything and don’t know what we’re doing… so we stuck to the exposed sand bars. it was easier to rake and see what we’re raking.

location is everything: at cape henlopen, there are some areas where you’re allowed and not allowed to clam. by the fishing pier, clamming is permitted to the right of the pier if you are facing the ocean. so like noobs we started at the exposed sand bars along the closest point from the beach access next to the pier. and we got nothing. then we started noticing people farther out were getting clams, so we moved out and hit our tiny jackpot too. so i’d recommend going out farther from the pier as opposed to going closer.

what we realized from this exercise of digging for 1.5 hours before hitting anything was that the location was more important than any skill or tools. duh, you say. well we thought maybe we were just lacking in our ability to dig fast enough or lacking in our ability to find the right kind of air holes in the sand. but it turns out, we were just in unproductive locations at first.

so how do you actually do it then: when digging for quahogs–aka the hard clams–what you are looking for while walking on the exposed wet sand bars is a small slit of a hole that looks like someone jammed a key into the sand and pulled it out. then you dig under it with hopes of revealing a beautiful clam of legal size. that’s the short version of the instructions.

those squirtholes supposed to be the telltale signs of clams underneath. HOWEVER… there are lots of holes and we couldn’t always distinguish between a round one v. a key-shaped one v. something else, so we just dug everything. what i do know is if you don’t hear the clang of your rake hitting a sturdy shell pretty early on, you probably won’t find anything so give up and move on. they were merely 2-3 inches beneath the surface, and while people told us to dig quickly because they’ll move, we didn’t find them especially mobile. i think the razor clams are known for being faster.

if you have a long-handled rake, you could alternatively rake the sand under shallow water until you hit something, like i saw in some other youtube videos… but then you’d really have to rely on feeling your rake hitting something and pulling it out to check. i’d have no idea how to do this based on feeling alone because even while looking at our piles of raked up sand/mud goo, i sometimes got confused by the clang of small snails and shells.

once you find a clam, rinse it off, measure it, and keep it if it’s big enough!

keep the clams alive: once you start catching clams, keep them alive until you’re ready to eat them. we kept ours in  bucket filled with ocean water. you don’t want them to die because you shouldn’t eat dead or damaged ones… something about bacteria and poison and the plague.

you caught ’em, so cook ’em: before you dine on your harvest, you should give the clams somewhere between 1-3 hours to spit out their grit. what we did was soak them in salted tap water in a pot for a couple of hours then lift them up out of pot so as not to stir up the grit, and rinse them. i’ve heard of other people keeping their clams suspended in the ocean water overnight in a net or bag, and i’ve also heard of people using straight tap water for a shorter amount of time so as not to kill them prematurely. but the idea is that you want to give them some time to have a final purge so you don’t bite into pockets of sand.

i suppose you could eat the quahogs raw if you really wanted to, but i usually prefer my clams steamed or chowdered or battered/fried. since we were camping and short on equipment, we grilled them over the fire until they opened up then dipped them in melted butter heated over a little camp stove. SO FRESH. SO GOOD. TOTALLY DOING THIS AGAIN.


and maybe now would be an appropriate time to mention that we only ended up getting seven legal buggers in about 3 hours. so hopefully we’ll hit a bigger jackpot next time since we are now one step closer to knowing what the hail we’re doing.




survived my first (disney) cruise. ask me anything.


guys, i have a problem. since returning from our first disney cruise for spring break, i’ve been eyeing future potential cruise dates with a crazy obsession. that was back in march, and i’ve been checking prices at least once a week since then. how did this happen?

i never thought i’d be a cruising person. mostly because i get horrifyingly barfy from riding anything that moves: trains, buses, vans, ferry boats, cabs, any cars driven by other people…

when i used to commute via the local subway system, i used to have to sit sideways and do breathing exercises to stop myself from puking. even now, when i smell the stale air of an enclosed metro station, i feel uneasy.

i also never thought i’d really get into the all-inclusive/resort-life type of vacation. one of the best parts of being in a new place is spending hours in the weeks before a trip researching the crap out of every non-chain restaurant and finding the perfect hipster coffee shop to swing by.

so there was never any way i was going to trap myself on a moving buffet cabaret over the ocean.

but then the kids started bugging me, the commercials started looking interesting, the strangers on the internet started talking about the special nature of disney cruises, blah blah, spent an arm & leg, feared we’d regret it but #yolo.

and…it was faith-trust-and-pixie-dust awesome.

our kids had a blast, we parents didn’t lose our minds, the shows gave me the warm nostalgic fuzzies (i know all the words to a lot of disney songs), the food was surprisingly pretty good, and i only felt sick for a bit on the first night.

so since nobody really wants to read a chronological play-by-play about anything these days, here are some of my personal highlights from this trip.


1. motion sickness didn’t kill me! hooray!

in the time that i did feel motion-sick, it was more like a dizzy/floaty-headed feeling, not nausea. i felt like i needed to lie down. i felt sort of hung over. it was weird.

so then i became friends with meclizine, which is offered for free in the medical center in packets of chewable tablets. accupressure “sea bands” didn’t do it for me. (now a fun drugfact, because a lot of people don’t seem to know this: meclizine is the name of the actual drug, listed as the “active ingredient,” but you can buy this as bonine or even as dramamine in its less drowsy version. those are brand names. you usually pay more for brand names. but they have the same active ingredient. so don’t ask a large forum of people whether you should buy bonine or dramamine or generic meclizine if all three packages list the exact same active ingredient, as i’ve seen others do…)

2. disney literally owns the place where childhood nostalgia, happiness and innocence intersect.

play just the first few seconds of a song from peter pan and suddenly the world feels warmer and cheerier. add in turquoise waters, palm trees, and unlimited ice cream, and that magical happiness stuff is on. lock.

there was a point during one of the shows, where they ran through every major disney movie song from the past 30 years, and i just kept smiling and exclaiming to my side-eyeing daughter: this is SO AWESOME. she gave me an epic side-eye.

there are also lots of chances to meet characters. and lots of fun infused into everything, like our dining servers crafting green cloth napkins into peter pan hats.

they told him he was a codfish.

3. kids’ clubs are the best thing ever.

why have we never vacationed with a kids’ club before??? this was amazing! it helps that the ship had a super cool marvel avengers section with special programs for superhero-loving kids like my son. “become iron man”??? yes. “train in the marvel avengers academy??” yes. they also had a constant rotation of interactive activities going on, from cooking classes to crazy science demonstrations. there was also a neat play area that looked liked andy’s room from toy story. as much as family vacations are good for family bonding time, it was also really nice to get a few breaks here and there where the kids would go off and do their own thing and we could hang out in the quiet adult-only pool and drink some capirinhas.

we also bought one of the kids’ club wristbands and used it to unlock the cruise ship & the places we stopped on the disney infinity game system. that’s a fun souvenir if you have disney infinity 3.0. if you don’t, be glad because it’s a total moneysuck and now is going under anyway.


4. nassau is nice.

for whatever reason, *coughcough*shelteredupbringing*cough*, i don’t know, a lot of internet people on these cruising forums and groups do not like the bahamas. in my trip planning, i saw a lot of advice from people saying to stay on the ship and skip nassau entirely because of reasons like it’s “scary” and “dirty” and people selling things are “pushy.”


so of course we got off the ship and wanted to see what we could see. immediately, we encountered a lot of people selling stuff… hair braiding, bus tours, fishing tours, horse & carriage rides, trinkets, drinks… it was lively and busy and fun. i respect the hustle. it wasn’t obnoxious. we went to dunkin donuts for some iced coffees because we are addicted to them, paid in dollars and got some pretty bahamian coins in change. then we walked to junkanoo beach, which is close to the port and a public beach, therefore free to access. there were beachside bars, shacks renting all sorts of tings and lots of locals and tourists hanging out. then we continued on to experience the freshest seafood at arawak cay. this area is also known as the fish fry and has a ton of seafood restaurants and shacks with delicious food with local flavor. we went to a place called twin brother and had fresh conch salad, whole fried snapper, grilled fish, rice, beans, fresh mango smoothies… the kids loved it and it was totally worth the short walk.


the straw market had stalls of goods for sale, like t-shirts, bags, hats and other trinkets and we haggled over fedoras and a hand-carved wooden sword with my son’s name etched into it. the salespeople were great fun to haggle with.


5. private islands are pretty awesome.

disney’s private island, castaway cay (pronounced “key” btw), was beautiful and pristine and not too crowded and the kids played on the beach literally all day. it also has playground structures in the water, a splash pad for little kids, hammocks, beach chairs and umbrellas aplenty, and a snorkeling section with disney character statues underwater…. but we never made it out that far because my daughter freaked out after we were about 50 yards off the beach.



we packed a lot into 3 days. next time, we’ll aim for 7 days with more ports to explore…. #takemeback


escape tales

once upon a time in my life, i used to escape by reading every novel on the special bestseller shelf at the bookstore.

at another time in my life, i escaped by sweating it out at clubs and parties.


i also used to escape by going online and doing absolutely nothing for hours on end…. ok fine, i still do this.

but now, as a completely grown and responsible adult human, i have, for the most part, developed healthier, better ways of dealing with stress.

like drinking 3 cups of coffee a day

and taking a lot of short getaways.

in fact, last month was basically a month of condensed encore vacations including great wolf lodge, assateague camping and sonoma/napa valleys. i’ve previously blogged about all three but i thought it might be worth mentioning some new things i’ve learned… so here are my tips and lessons in no particular order.

  1. don’t go camping in assateague immediately after a bad storm. our assigned site was completely underwater. as in 4″ of water that wasn’t trying to dry up. the storms also swept sand in piles and stuff that hid the road, partially hid electric fences and made some sites uneven. on the upside, the bathroom renovations look really nice at the state park!
  2. staying in sonoma is cheaper than staying in napa, and possibly even nicer. turns out sonoma valley has more of a farmy, less-commercialized feel. we stayed in a cool historic farmhouse b&b originally owned by a woman who was a freed slave turned millionaire. the garden, vineyards, horsies, olive groves and breakfast were all amazing. driving through the mountains from sonoma to napa is also fun in a dont-swerve-or-you’ll-die kind of way.
  3. if you are a beer fan in sonoma valley and decide to visit russian river brewing company, prepare to wait. even at 11am on sunday, which is when they open, the line was down the sidewalk. thankfully, if you only want to pick up some cases of pliny the elder beer, you can stand in a shorter separate line.
  4. beer and wine both hold up exceptionally well in styrofoam or cardboard-padded wine boxes when flown as checked luggage.
  5. there’s a charles schultz museum in santa rosa, ca. all the shnoopies!!
  6. at lava vine winery, you not only get to taste their wines, you get treated to the guys pouring your wines busting out a guitar and banjo to sing a soulful ballad!
  7. great wolf lodge is pretty fun at halloweentime. the kids get to trick or treat at a handful of spots around the place and collect a bagful of candy. and we all got orange wolf ear headbands!

and here are some pictures.

galbi // korean bbq beef short ribs // the secret formula recipe is still legit // let me see your grill

korean bbq galbi on grill

when people say they love korean food, this is what they’re talking about.

korean bbq.


slabs of sliced beef short ribs marinated and grilled to perfection, with a healthy bit of char, typically served with rice and fixins and wrapped up in a lettuce leaf with a smear of korean hot sauce.

as as the summer winds down, and grilling season starts to make way for soup season, i wanted to share this recipe that brings so much joy to my life. such garlicky, sweet, salty, smoky joy.

even the most “ethnic”-averse tastebuds tend to love galbi. it’s that good.

it also happens to be pretty easy, with simple ingredients. the real challenge, however, is in the marinade ingredient proportions. too much soy sauce, and it’s too salty. too little sugar and it’s just missing a bit of somethingsomething. the trick here is the same as with the braised brother of this dish known as galbi jjim:

galbi secret formula

usually, 1 part = 1 cup for me, but if i find i need more marinade, i just increase all 3 ingredients accordingly.

now let me be clear. this secret formula is my aunt’s secret formula, and it is FOOL.FREAKING.PROOF. there have been so many times when i’ve been lured by the scent of grilling beef in a restaurant or in someone’s home, only to be let down by the flavor. but this recipe does not fail. ever.

in fact, while you could sub out sugar for honey, fruit, juice, or even sprite or jam, i don’t love the risk of messing up the ratio, so in 99.9% of cases, i just use plain jane white granulated sugar. (i used maple syrup in my galbi jjim recipe, i know, i know)

if you think it seems like a lot of sugar, too much sugar…. you’re wrong.

just give it a try.

korean bbq galbi

galbi aka korean bbq beef short ribs

makes enough for about 6-8 normal appetites, or 3-4 really hungry people who can eat a lot, i.e. me

ingredients you need:

  • approx. 3-4 lbs beef short ribs that are sliced against the grain & bone, if it’s not boneless (sometimes i see this in american grocery stores labeled as “korean style” or “korean cut” or “kalbi” or “galbi.” apparently they could also be called “flanken cut” although i’ve never seen that myself. i buy the big pack of boneless beef short ribs at costco that are thick-cut, and then just slice each thick cut into two thinner slices.)
  • 1 onion, sliced into half-moons
  • 3 cloves of garlic, minced
  • 1 scallion stalk, chopped
  • 1 cup sugar
  • 1 cup soy sauce
  • 1 cup water
  • 2 Tbsp toasted sesame oil (you can usually find a small bottle of this in any grocery store’s ethnic food aisle)
  • a sprinkling of toasted sesame seeds (also typically in the ethnic aisle)

additional ingredients/fixins you might want for serving:

  • red lettuce leaves or romaine leaves for wrapping
  • cooked white rice
  • chopped scallions
  • ssam jang, also known as a korean spicy bean paste/sauce, which adds a punch of flavor to korean lettuce-wrapped bites of bbq meat. i also like to use this as a dip for plain slices of cucumber, lettuce leaves, baby carrots… while this sounds like a really obscure thing to get a hold of, i’ve bought it from my local wegmans. it looks like this, unrefrigerated in the asian food section, and i store it in the fridge after opening.
  • kimchi (it’s ok, even if you don’t like kimchi, you will still like galbi, and i will forgive you.)
  • quick-pickled veggies like cucumbers or chayote squash or radishes

ingredients i sometimes see as galbi fixins in other people’s recipes that strike me as just plain wrong:

  • cilantro
  • wasabi

i mean, i’m all for creative freedom, so you do you… but i just can’t.


what you do:

marinate your meat the night before. this way, you’ll get the maximum effect of flavor.

to start, rinse off your galbi meat or let it soak in water, just to let out some of the blood and get rid of any bone bits if you’re using bone-in slices.

place the meat, onion slices, minced garlic and chopped scallions in a big baking dish or other container/ziploc bag. (i find a big baking dish easiest). pour sugar over the meat slices, then add the soy sauce, water and sesame oil.

massage it all together to get the ingredients combined. (the main thing i try to do is to get the sugar on all sides of the meat)

sprinkle sesame seeds on top.

cover with plastic wrap and/or foil (or seal your ziploc bag) and place in the refrigerator overnight.

the next day, when the meat is good and marinated, fire up your grill and cook the slices for a few minutes on each side over medium high heat to get a good char on the outside, then turn the heat down, cover the grill and let it go a few minutes longer until it’s to your preferred level of doneness. if this seems imprecise, it’s because cooking galbi is a little like cooking steak. you might prefer it with a pink middle, or you might prefer it fully cooked. personally, i like my steak medium but my galbi well done with crispy edges.

grilling offers the best results, but if you can cook this on the stove or under a broiler. i highly recommend starting with high heat to get a good caramelized sear before cooking it through.

serve with lettuce leaves, rice, chopped scallions and ssam jang. or just eat it plain off the grill.

korean bbq galbi beef  korean bbq galbi

Must-Read: The New Yorker on “The Man Who Broke the Music Business” & DJ Taiga in the aftermath

The-new-yorker-logoToday, the New Yorker published an intriguing story recounting the rise of “the most sophisticated piracy operation in history” run by a group that called itself Rabid Neurosis or RNS. RNS leaked 22,000+ albums online — including every album ever put out by 50 Cent and Kanye West, according the story — until they were eventually raided by the FBI.

Turns out, I know someone who was part of this elite leadership in digital piracy. He helped DJ my wedding. Identified as the “ripping coordinator,” Simon (who I still think of as DJ Taiga) had access to promotional material as the music director of our college radio station, and was responsible for being the first to leak Ludacris’s “Back for the First Time” and Outkast’s “Stankonia.” It almost seems impressive and harmless, a fun modern-day organized crime tale, until you realize Simon was no longer a kid, but an Ivy League graduate building a future, when FBI agents came knocking and he faced the threat of jail time.

But the story doesn’t end with the fall of RNS. Sure, the New Yorker’s story does. But what I find especially amazing is how Simon’s story continues. In the death of RNS and the death of his pride, DJ Taiga found love, forgiveness, peace, and new life. Sometimes at the strange intersection of the cliche, nonsensical, stupefying, and glorious, God works in remarkably weird, unexpected ways. I am in awe.

Below are Simon’s words, originally posted on Facebook and re-posted here with his permission. And here is the New Yorker story. You just gotta read both of them.

Yes, the Simon Tai in this article refers to me. Being in this elite group called RNS was something I had built my identity on (albeit secret for the most part) in my late teens/early 20s. It didn’t matter that I was breaking the law & hurting companies and individuals in the process.

Although what I did seems “cool” (and I certainly thought so at the time), there was nothing cool about the FBI coming to my door & the possibility of a felony charge on my record and jail time hanging over my head for the better part of 2 years, not to mention spending 50k in lawyer fees.

I have done many things in life that I’m not proud of (including this), but through God’s grace He used this ordeal to bring me into His Kingdom. If you’re going to read the super long New Yorker article, read the following as well. This is a short testimony I gave during a Redeemer Presbyterian Church of NYC Easter service back in 2009 while the case was still going on. ‪#‎truth‬

“Good evening, my name is Simon Tai. Let me start my story with a little background information. I grew up in a Muslim household, but was exposed to Christianity and Buddhism as a young man. In college I took classes on Buddhism and even went to church a few times. I enjoyed the positive message the sermons conveyed, but didn’t connect with the people and thought that Christians were hypocritical and judgmental. So instead, I told myself to try to be a good person and figured that karma would take its course. That allowed me to focus on my career, material wealth, girls, and things of that nature.

Around the time I turned 25, I started to think about the meaning of life. I had been working for a few years developing my career. I had dated girls and been in relationships. Yet something was missing in my life. I wasn’t happy. I would get depressed sometimes, but I wasn’t sure why. I bought material things to cheer myself up, but the relief was only temporary. I started yearning for spiritual development, but didn’t have much direction and didn’t really care for organized religions. I just remembered thinking that there was a higher being out there and wanted to develop some sort of spirituality. But nothing really came out of these vague spiritual yearnings and I continued to live as I did before.

In August of 2007, I met Monica through some mutual friends. I was interested in her, but didn’t think it would work out when I found out she was Christian. So I decided not to worry about what she thought of me and used this opportunity to try to disprove Christianity to her. I admit that I was perhaps a bit obnoxious. (She later told me the same.) But in the debates that we had, she responded in such a way that not only showed her strong beliefs in Christianity and the gospel, but also a refreshing humility and honesty. It was not something that I expected. She was nothing like the stereotype of a “hardcore” Christian that I had in my head.

One telling conversation we had was about the idea of Hell. I asked her what her definition of Hell was. Thinking that she would only speak of fire and brimstones, I was taken aback when she replied “It’s a place without God and a place without God is a place without anything good”. She began to break down my stereotypes of Christianity one by one, and it made me realize that I had no idea what the gospel truly was. Looking back now, God was starting to soften my heart.

From that point, I began to crave more knowledge. I read Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis and the words spoke to me. Monica also pointed me to Redeemer’s website, and from there, I downloaded and listened to quite a few sermons. The idea of the gospel, Jesus, and inside out living made a lot of sense. A few weeks later, I attended my first Redeemer service.

Everything that I had heard and read I could logically agree with, but I still couldn’t give myself over to Christ. The idea of living for someone else was foreign to me and I wasn’t sure if I could ever do it. I wanted to take the leap of faith, but my selfishness and pride were in the way. Chatting with a few of my Christian friends, I realized that most of their testimonies involved a dramatic and/or traumatic life changing event. I wanted to believe so badly that I even thought to myself at one point, ‘why couldn’t that happen to me?’ I struggled with that for weeks, and then on December 20th of that year, it happened.

I had just woken up that day when I got a knock on the door. I opened it and facing me were 2 FBI agents that wanted to interrogate me about some questionable activities that had been a part of my life years back when I was in college. I had finally gotten the traumatic life changing event that I was “wishing” for. I was scared, helpless, and felt like I had hit rock bottom. That day I gave myself to Christ. It brought me the strength, hope, and calmness that I needed but was never able to get on my own.

To say the least, I have been through the most difficult time of my life in this past year and an half. I am facing a possible indictment, felony on my record, and in the worst case scenario jail time. I have spent $25,000 and counting on legal fees, most of which I had to borrow and am still paying off. And worst of all, I continue to live with this uncertainty hanging over my head.

But Christ has been with me through these trials and tribulations. And Christ has been with Monica, my now fiancée, as she has been by my side through these tough times. I am so thankful that I have found Christ and have been accepted into his community. Although I am in the worst financial and social state ever, I have never felt freer, more loved, and joyful in my life. Thank you.”